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Descartes got it wrong!

It is said that what you give out, you get back in the same form. Many of you will know this by its name. Karma. 

Everything I say here is not new to me, but something I am remembering everyday. I am back on a journey that I began nearly 30 years ago. In fact, come to think of it, I don't think I ever left this journey, I just stopped a little longer at places en route.

I've been working on re-knowing who I am, not the external me but the internal me. Not the ego but the essence of who I truly am. 

Don't panic! I'm not about to sell you a religion! I'm merely telling you of my experience at this present time. What you do with the information is up to you, and quite frankly, none of my business. 

I have been re-learning. Working on myself to be a person who does good things. A better person. The best person I can possibly be and a better person than who I was yesterday. To feel the fear and do it anyway. To lean in to my vulnerability, and to leave the world in a better state than I found it.

Guess what? It appears to be working!

It looks like I AM being seen and I'll admit it feels great but not in an egotistical way, but rather in a "happy for others" kind of way. Shedding my judgement of myself and others!

Since writing these posts and working on myself, people have been reaching out to me. Something that was sparked in me, is now being sparked in them. 

They're telling me that they relate to my stories, and are even thanking me for being honest, as they can now make sense of a troubling situation that they are facing or they have faced in their lives. 

Some have even asked me to help them. Help them to reach their goals and dreams and be the person that they want to be. 
I'm obviously more than happy to do what I can and I'm humbled by it too.

Some of my past pain now has a reason, a value! And it's clear now that I'm not the only one leaning in to it!

Just as a side note if you're wondering what the hell on blathering on about check out Brené Brown's books, podcasts, TED Talks, and her Netflix special. Seriously she's got it right! 

Anyway, by talking with with them, and listening to what they have to say, I'm getting validation that I'm not wasting my time here, that all of this is totally worth it. I am also learning things about how they have accomplished, how they have failed, loved and lost, and that is helping me make sense of my experiences, to move away from the painful elements of my past, and ever forward toward my goals, dreams, and hopes. Whilst sticking to my values!

So by putting myself out there are, by leaning in, I'm helping others do the same and they are in return helping me.
I am achieving every day because of them! Thank you!

So Paul what the hell does this have to do with René Descartes? 

Descartes said, "I think therefore I am," which means that because I can think, it is the very proof of my existence. 

Obviously he isn't wrong there but I think the phrase is actually better if you say, "I think it, therefore I am it!"

It's all about (re)programming the computer of your mind and about belief in yourself.  Seeing isn't believing, believing is seeing! 

I have adjusted my perception, and now I'm seeing life -seeing me- in a new way and in a new light and I have to be honest, I like what I see!

I'm setting the challenge for you all to lean into your vulnerability and give appreciation to someone else, if this is something you feel you cannot do but want to!

Have a great day and I'll be back with another name soon x 

Check out Brené Brown

Image by Paul Adams (that's me)

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